Catalyst for a Change
I discovered recently that it’s been 2 months since a friend of mine embarked on a quest to find a new job. If you have ever been in the same position as she has, of having a contract terminated unexpectedly you will perhaps recognise that the multitude of emotions experienced can ‘hijack’ the mind and catch you by surprise.
Shock, anger, hurt, panic, rejection and fear all hit hard and nothing could have prepared for this sudden change of direction and the emotional rollercoaster that ensued.
On the bright side, there was the happy realisation that this could be an ideal catalyst to switch direction. You may find a job more personally and professionally fulfilling. On the down side, you may find yourself reacting strongly and somewhat irrationally, purely from emotions, to each and every situation.
So how could you skillfully recognise and handle the feelings triggered by loss of a job? How do you avoid sabotaging friendships? How do you rise to the challenge of staying positive to improve your chances of success?
Fortunately, I have found a tip for you.
“What you need to know is that these emotions are normal, it’s how you handle them that makes the difference.”
That’s where emotional intelligence comes in. At first glance, it seems really simple, right? Practice a few times a day by going through some simple steps. Become aware of your thoughts, feelings and reactions and get out of the autopilot that leads to the emotional rollercoaster.
What are you thinking?
Notice your thoughts, are your thoughts sabotaging your success? Is that little voice inside your head positive or negative?
What are you feeling?
Everyone has feelings all of the time. Emotions are just data. When you begin to name the emotions, it makes you aware of how you are feeling and better able to take action to change.
What are your actions?
Before a situation begins to escalate, take a breath, pause and reflect. There are very few situations that require an instant reaction.
What options do I have?
What are the outcomes I want?
If any of the answers to those questions are less than positive, then what could you do instead? Would that gain a different result?
Once you are aware of your reactions then you can take conscious action. Remember; don’t let your job search consume you. Make time for fun, rest, and relaxation—whatever revitalizes you so that you are mentally, emotionally, and physically at your best. Becoming aware of emotional intelligence will enable you to open up the possibilities making you more effective in the long run.